The 1950's Housewife

            Doesn't it seem a bit absurd to drop everything you are doing, the environment surrounding you, the friends, the connections, the opportunities, the residency you just obtained for a man? Absolutely! By all means a woman who would choose to do so would have to be in an induced coma resulting from this so-called love affair. So why do I find myself placing in precisely the same situation? More interestingly, I didn't come to college to find a man I would fall in love with, a struggle with declaring a major, nor the idea of connecting with so many wonderful families within the community. I came to college with the simple intent of obtaining a degree in songwriting and becoming a world renowned singer/songwriter. Funny how I ended up taking such a different turn than I had ever expected. Now I am finally coming to an understanding of what I want to do with my life and where I feel that I will find the best suite for a professional career.
          "You don't have to be a shell, you're the one that rules your world. You are strong and you'll learn that you can still go on. You'll always be a pearl." Katy Perry protests that any woman should fall into the trap of a man who takes that peal and locks her up in a shell where she can't shine. Thus, here I am in the same situation sincerely wondering if I should follow a man and expect that things will just work out. I want to be an optimist who focuses all of my energy on what could go well but the realistic side of me is greatly weighing down all of the cons.
           At what age and time is it deemed appropriate for a woman to follow in the foot steps of a man and give up her prior goals and images of a future to be with him? Is that germane after 2 years of a relationship when marriage is expected? Or how about if you are 55 years old and just recently divorced and are sure that the person you found through match.com is your soul mate? Or how about if you have been dating for 7 months and still see this person as your soul mate? Is it just ludicrous? I will begin to weight the pros and cons of the idea. Is this man worth it? How will he support me in this decision? Will there be any commitment that will benefit both of us in the remote future?